[转帖]后现代婆婆致80后儿媳的信

丁水新 · 发表于 2009-4-2 22:52:00

亲爱的媳妇：你好！ 　　在你即将与我的儿子组成新家庭的前夕，为了今后若干年家庭的安定团结，希望我们能够就相关一些问题交换一下意见。 　　一，经济问题：所谓经济基础决定上层建筑。我们首先来谈一谈这个问题。 　　1 我儿子名校毕业，现在看来就算换工作，也基本不用担心经济问题。他现在年收入xx万以上。我想，按照北京现在的生活水平，在不负担贷款及房租的情况下，你们两个人生活应该是够了。这个打算是基于你不工作的基础上的。如果你有你喜欢的工作，我为你高兴；如果你有收入好的工作，我更为你骄傲；你们的生活品质也会得到相应的提高；如果你没有工作，我也没有任何意见，男人养家是天经地义，你只管玩得开心就好。作为婆婆我非常支持。 　　2 作为我们老人，在今后的日子里也不会向你们伸手的，我们辛苦大半辈子，挣得足够我们的开销了。在这一点上，不劳你们费心，希望你们把所有的收入都用来建设你们的小家庭，建设得越来越好。 　　3 我和他爸养了他20多年，不求回报，也不用你们给什么生活费什么的，但是我们将不会就你们的生活再提供经济支持，希望你们能够自力更生，愉快生活。 　　4 你的家庭养育了你，你应该满怀感激之情。你的家庭没有养育我的儿子，所以请你们不要希望他对于你的家庭有所回馈。如果他基于对你的爱情和对你家人的敬重愿意承担相应的责任，我也理解并且非常支持。但是我和他爸爸将不会有任何经济上的帮助。这一点请你谅解。当然，如果你的娘家实力比我们还雄厚的话，我们也不会对你的娘家要求任何经济上的帮助的。我们说到做到。 　　5 我们的资产和有价证券将会有律师陪伴在公证处的公证下进行遗嘱的制订。我们会把遗产放在儿子和孙子的名下，当儿子不在世，而孙辈未满20岁时，这部分资金将由专人托管，并有律师监督。你将不会有机会接触到我们的资产。当然你对于我们的房屋是有居住权的。希望你对于我们的决定表示支持，毕竟我儿子今后后挣得全是你们二人的，我们也绝不会惦记。

丁水新 · 发表于 2009-4-2 22:53:00

<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　二，房子问题：<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">1 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">你们居住的房子我们会提供，保证商品房，四环以里，<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">130<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">平米以上，社区成熟。房子的购买在合理的价格范围内尽量以你们的意见为主。但是房产证上将不会有你的名字，所以也请你尽量不要在里面接待你的远方的客人。装修及家电给你们<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">xx<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">万的预算，希望你们心疼我们，尽量节约，以发票价格实报实销。装修的时候我会尽量控制自己，不发表任何意见，因为我十分理解媳妇对于婆婆提出装修意见时的反感情绪，而且我也同意。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> 2 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">你们居住的房子我们将保留一套钥匙，主要是为了你们没带钥匙后或有突发事件<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">(<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">如漏水，跑电<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">)<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">的准备。我以人格向你发誓，在没有经你们同意的情况下，决不会擅自进入你们居住的房子。而且我们也不会不打招呼就去拜访你们。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">3 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">我们居住的房子你们手里也会有一套钥匙，功能同上。随时欢迎你们来，午夜或凌晨能免则免。保姆总在家，也不怕活没人干。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">4 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">以后你们买了自己的房子，我们将会视情况提供一定额度的祝贺表示心意，除此之外我们将不会指手画脚发表任何意见。

丁水新 · 发表于 2009-4-2 22:53:00

<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">三，日常相处关系问题：<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">1 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">儿子是我亲生的，是我血脉的延续，我不可能爱你超过爱他。请你谨记这一点。但你同时也是这世界上除了我老伴和儿子最亲的人，因此当你和外人有任何的<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">**<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">时<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">(<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">不管是你的亲人、朋友、同学、同事还是来自于我家的亲朋好友<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">)<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">，我将坚定地站在你这一边。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">2 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">请你要理解，儿子再怎么不好，他在我眼里始终是那个躺在摇篮里的可爱宝宝，是那个满脸泥水的顽皮小男孩，而你在我眼里一出现就是个成熟懂事的大姑娘。因此我总会觉得儿子是容易被原谅的。这一点十分不好意思，但我想当你做了母亲就会理解。因此我会尽量在你们有争执的时候偏向你<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">(<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">儿子是亲生的不会记仇<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">)<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">但请你尽量少对我讲那小子的不是<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">,<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">好吗？<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">3 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">儿子是我生的，我会在你们结婚前尽量客观地把我眼中的他――尤其是缺点部分和你交流一下。但另一方面，丈夫是你挑的，你们结婚以后他的思想教育工作就与我无关了，请你自行进行后期改造，我不会帮忙也不会阻挠的<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">4 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">对于你，毕竟不是我亲生女儿，我会首先做到尊重，希望能进一步喜欢。你如果有一些什么我看不惯或不喜欢的，如果不关我事，我会闭嘴。如果关我事，我会尽量委婉的与你交换意见，希望我们能得到共识。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">5 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">对于我，希望你尊重，如果能喜爱就更好。我如果有一些什么你看不惯或不喜欢的，如果不关你事，请你会闭嘴。如果关你事，请你不要在第三人面前表达，在我们独处的时候请直接坦白对我讲，我们找出合理的解决方案。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">

丁水新 · 发表于 2009-4-2 22:53:00

<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">四，日常生活问题：我们毕竟不是一家人，没有共同生活的经历，因此总会有磕碰，希望我们能共同遵守以下原则：<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">1 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">我家有保姆，因此你来我家时不用干活，不过如果你愿意在开饭时摆摆筷子我会非常开心的。　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">2 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">你家有没有保姆我不管，但是当我们去你家的时候我是不会帮忙干活的。你要是嫌麻烦，我请你们出去吃饭倒是没问题。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">3 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">在我的家里，请你遵守我的生活习惯和卫生标准。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">4 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">在你的家里，我会尊重你们的生活习惯<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">(<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">年轻人要是喜欢乱七八糟，我就当看不见好了<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">)<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">。不说三道四，指手画脚。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">5 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">在其他的场合，希望你在合理范围内尽量让着我，如果我做了讨厌的事或不合时宜的事你也可以直说。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">6 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">每年春节、中秋、五一、十一四个大节请你们做如下安排：如果前夜在我家，正日子请去你娘家，如果前夜在你娘家，过节当日请来我家，循环往返，公平安排。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">

丁水新 · 发表于 2009-4-2 22:54:00

<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">五，孩子问题：<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">1 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">以后有了孩子，你做月子我不想管，主要是产妇情绪不稳容易拌嘴，伤了和气就不太好了。我会给你雇一个月嫂，雇一个保姆，人请你事先选好，我来付钱。我每隔一天会去一次帮忙采购，如果对我买的东西及品牌有异议的话，请你列出单子，我会照买。如果你的母亲愿意来照顾你的话，保姆月嫂我照雇，另外负担你母亲的费用。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">2 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">我支持母乳喂养，我支持孩子每天洗澡，我支持年轻点要……但是一切以你的意愿为重。不过建议你以医生的意见为重。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">3 <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">孩子的教育问题我觉得是最易引起矛盾的。在我承认最终决定权在你们的手上的前提下，希望我们充分讨论，请教专家，尊重科学，以安全为前提，以培养一个正直的人为目的，健康成长。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New="New" Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">

丁水新 · 发表于 2009-4-2 22:54:00

六，两家相处问题： 　　这真是一个沉重的话题，我实在不想多谈，但根据我以前的惨痛经历，还是先说的好：总的意见就是：多玩乐，少共事，经济互相不往来，关系互相不借用。如果两家旗鼓相当，以期多多玩乐倒是好伴，如果条件相差太远，最好两家少来往(我不是嫌贫爱富，要是你娘家十分显赫，我们其实也没有什么共同话题)。 　　综上所述，亲爱的媳妇，如果我们能共同遵守，相信我们能快乐相处，其乐融融。 　　最后祝你们小家和美，好好过日子。 　　――你未来的：婆婆

远望 · 发表于 2009-4-2 22:55:00

传统伦理道德教育丧失之后，出现了如此种种臆想的婆媳关系，很无奈啊。

邝硕棠 · 发表于 2009-4-2 23:05:00

是这样的阶层的人，有这样的说话，倒不奇怪。

依澜 · 发表于 2009-4-3 00:46:00

这婆婆能写这么多文字，强啊！[s:63]
 
不过还算是开明的，但正如迷途汉所说的，有这样的经济能力，决定这样的说话能力。

孙武 · 发表于 2009-4-3 08:29:00

还是一句老话：婚姻要门当户对，乌龟要找王八。否则再多的条款都约束不了。

王蜜 · 发表于 2009-4-3 11:05:00

希望能看到准备嫁人的准媳妇，换位为婆婆写的文章——婆媳关系期望

严务芬 · 发表于 2009-4-3 15:55:00

咋一看很没情义，但也很有道理。 
 还算是一个开明的婆婆。她有那样的经济条件决定她可以这样直说话，不奇怪。。很多人有这些想法只是没说而已。

夏小安 · 发表于 2009-4-7 12:04:00

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<div id="blogDetailDiv" style="FONT-SIZE: 16px">婆婆： 你只不过是我丈夫的母亲，在结婚之前，你在我的生命中毫无意义。 我的生命来自父母，我今天的学历、能力、教养及待人处世之情商，皆由我父母外承传，没有一分一毫是你的贡献。所以，我不懂，为何一结婚，我活了二十多年的岁月全部必须归零，然后，变成所谓“你家”的人，而且，还是你家“最小”的人呢，我在“你家”的地位竟不如我今年才两岁的儿子。 我心里很不平衡。父母养育了我二十多年，而你不过是捡他们辛苦二十多年的结晶，你可是不劳而获、捡现成的。我帮你做事情，你还得感谢我的父母的栽培以及我的劳心劳力。如果你不感激那也就算了，但你不应该对我抱有极大的成见，总是拿着放大镜来挑剔……尽在鸡蛋里面挑骨头，嘿，简直是得了便宜还卖乖。 我白天上班，经济独立，不必依靠你的儿子，也还没有靠过你儿子养呢。我今天所具备的谋生能力，全仰赖我父母给我的教育，和自身不断学习成长的能力。所以,我无法忍受自食其力后，还好像责无旁贷理所当然地必须为“你家”作贡献。我一没欠你，二不需你养我，也从没拿过你一毛钱。在家里，我可以尊重你的意见，但不会让你做主。在此，容我对你打开天窗说亮话： 电费是我支付的，酷暑炎夏我开冷气睡觉，你不准有意见，我要上班，睡眠质量对我事关重大。 “佛要金装、人要衣装”，我买几套衣服、鞋子都由我说了算，与你无关，我在花自己赚的钱。你想管的话，就去管你儿子的钱吧。我的地盘我做主，难道还要看你的脸色？ 你别以为你的儿子多棒，如果没有我也出去赚钱的话，你去年可以出国旅游两周吗？哪来的钱？ 你所有的恩情功劳都在儿子他身上，要回报你的话也是他。如果，我的父母如今也这样挑剔你的儿子的话，你会舒服吗？试问你的儿子为人婿，给予了我的父母多少？ 在此提醒你：以后想吃水果的话，叫你儿子切给你吃；衣服也请你儿子洗，你帮他洗了二十几年的衣服（我连一双袜子都没麻烦过你）；要去看医生，请他提早下班带你去……我不想老被扣全勤奖。当我感冒时，你对我是冷言冷语相讽，笑我身体差，所以，你身体有恙时，我也提不起更多的同情心。 总而言之，儿子孝顺你是应该的，而我，则会把孝心回馈给生我养我的父母亲。 如果你一定要我帮你做事的话，那么，请你闭上那张挑剔的嘴巴，然后，心存感激。我肯帮你做，只是看在你是我丈夫的母亲份上，仅此而已。 建议你得多看看新闻，洗洗脑，时下已是“家务劳给”的年代，你并没有支付我薪水，我帮你做事，你就要偷笑了！ 我写这封信，你一定觉得我大逆不道，人与人之间是互相尊重的，如果你不能够尊重我的感受，就算我看在你是长辈的份上退让几分，但我还是要把底限说清楚的。你会说“做人的媳妇要知道理”，但是，我也要反驳你———我从来就不是你养大的，更没有欠你，对你，我已经做到最大的容忍与尊重了，而需要学习和与时俱进的倒是你自己。 赠一句话给你：婆婆，尊重别人也是尊重你自己！</div></div><img id="paperPicArea1" style="DISPLAY: none; POSITION: relative" height="1" src="http://blog.qq.com/ac/b.gif" width="1"/></td></tr></tbody></table>

夏小安 · 发表于 2009-4-7 12:09:00

SUNNY仔娶老婆没？

胭脂 · 发表于 2009-4-23 17:02:00

哈哈，，，
 
小安好搞笑。。。

夏小安 · 发表于 2009-4-25 12:28:00

<div class="quote">以下是引用胭脂在2009-4-23 17:02:00的发言： 
哈哈，，，
 
小安好搞笑。。。
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[s:04]好好笑吗？

韩韶玲 · 发表于 2009-4-27 02:38:00

<div class="quote">以下是引用夏小安在2009-4-25 12:28:00的发言： <img title="dvubb" alt="图片点击可在新窗口打开查看" src="http://www.ahelp.cn/bbs/images/emot/em04.gif" onload="imgresize(this);" align="middle" border="0"/>好好笑吗？</div> 现在的年轻人真是什么话都敢说。

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[杂 谈] [转帖]后现代婆婆致80后儿媳的信

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